Updated: Jan 8
The reality just hit me this morning...2020 is coming to an end.
Just writing that I feel a sweet release.
But before we kick 2020 out the door, my question is―can you feel how powerful you are for having made it through? You are here, now in this moment with new tools to face the next fear that arises.
Facing our fear is how we release its power over us. Ignoring it creates more fear, anxiety and isolation. To pretend there is no shadow is what paralyzes us in fear and disconnects us from our courage.
One of the most powerful teachings from yoga scholar Dr. Douglas Brooks is that, “Fearlessness is not an ideal. Fear needs good company. It needs the company of courage. It needs the company of discernment. It needs the company of evidence and knowledge. It needs to not stand alone.”
As westerners, there’s this tendency to separate and isolate any emotion or experience we perceive as negative. We shame ourselves into more isolation and fear. We’ve lost touch with the meaning of wholeness and the range of emotions that is our human experience.
To be on a growth path is to hold space for the range of our experiences. Fear is such a basic part of our human-ness that our sympathetic nervous system has evolved over billions of years just to help us face our fear. Even fear has a purpose. It has kept us alive in some of the most harrowing moments of our life. It will always be a part of the conversation when it comes to human emotions, feelings and experiences.
Accepting and integrating our fear is key to standing in our power.
Brené Brown’s research on vulnerability and courage is a profound part of this conversation. In brief, she found that every act of courage comes from a place of vulnerability. Let me repeat, every act of courage came from a place of fear and vulnerability…. We will never know how truly courageous we are until we face our fears.
“To release all fear” is to pretend that we are exempt from being human. We end up isolating ourselves from true happiness, joy and the beauty of love and living this human life. Growth is allowing all of the marginalized parts of yourself back into the greater matrix of you. It is standing in right relationship with everything that makes you, YOU.
Real power comes from creating room for fear. Can we let fear be a part of the conversation? Can we get curious about it? What is it trying to tell you? This way when it does arise it no longer becomes a liability, but an asset―when it’s in the company of courage.
Fear and courage go together. Nothing stands alone. Courage helps us see what we are truly made of. Fear keeps us humble, keeps us honest and more importantly keeps us aware and awake.
Invite your fear and discover how truly powerful you are.
Take this moment and write down what you learned from your fear.
Use this to help you get started: “In 2020, I faced my fear of ___________ and discovered how powerful I could be when ____________. I am now closer to feelings of _____________. that bring me back to my wholeness.”
You are welcome to share them here or email/pm them to me. Can't wait to hear what arises!
*Are you ready to feel how powerful you are? This year (2020) I started a coaching program, Wholehearted Being! I help women step into their power and purpose through the habits of yoga and health. Together we let go of our perfectionism and step into our life's potential. If you are feeling stuck and ready to embrace your wholehearted self, let's connect! Book a free Clarity Call with me here to discover how truly powerful you ARE.
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I have to say a big thank you for Mysticmamma.com and her words of inspiration this morning, "It is a perfect time to integrate, and process what has been, which is such an important part of our growth and our journey....
But one of the most valuable things that I have learned through this time, which feels timely to share right now, is that facing the wound brings on the healing. And each fear that I looked in the eye, each wound that I spoke directly to, lost its power over me. And I've been able to move through the fire of my life by facing what was and what is, and in doing so bringing what has been unbalanced and in the shadows into the light of right relations.
We have within us an incredible power to overcome the most challenging of situations, and the seasons of our lives continually reveal to us our immanent strength and our ability to rise again like both the Sun and Moon."